May 28th, 2012, 11:00 pm

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141-Bend that gender

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daviddoesntgetit May 28th, 2012, 9:13 pm


"Have you ever had any experiences with people confusing you for a different ethnicity? If so, which was the most... "interesting"?"


"Ooo! I know, how about a 'What If' episode: how would Brad and your siblings react if they all woke up as the opposite gender for a day? :D"

Sorry for not updating last week, I was really busy, Jenny's wedding was last week and we were helping Douglass move out. Luckily he has almost nothing. Haha.


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roxjey May 29th, 2012, 8:54 am

ahahaha XD connor kidding lol


MilkChii May 29th, 2012, 9:27 am

@daviddoesntgetit: hahha oh my.. Brad why would your female self be a slut?! Also... Miriam.. LOL I knew she would somehow say that. xD


yaoi4evandnevayuri May 29th, 2012, 10:26 am

I was wondering about your profile pic. I like how you colored in your shirt. Will you do that for everyone in the comic, or at least the 'main characters'? Like a group photo or something?


daviddoesntgetit May 29th, 2012, 1:33 pm

@yaoi4evandnevayuri: What? No.

In fact, that isn't even me in the picture. I was trying to think of an avatar and I didn't feel like drawing one so Miriam was looking up pictures of random Vietnamese guys on the internet.

I ended up using it 'cause I had to draw over a baby to give him a black t-shirt and I still laugh when I look at it. And I feel a little guilty.

Here's the original picture:

I should really change it.


P3nT@bl3tsFTW May 29th, 2012, 8:55 pm

This made me laugh!
OMGoodness! 5th panel! That happens to my mom all the time! She's Korean and Italian so I don't know how it's possible...?(/'_')/?
~Shhhaaaaaaaaaa~ (~.//u.//)~


ixluvxprinny May 29th, 2012, 10:48 pm

Lol, race confusion happens to me all the time XD I'm Korean and half Bangladesh, so I somehow end up looking either Hispanic or Native American for some reason... Apparently my race appearance can also depend on how I style my hair so... Idk, people can be really messed up, I guess -_-;


Mavi (Guest) May 30th, 2012, 3:12 pm

LAWL~ <3
I love everyone's responses, especially Miriam's and Connor's! I love how Connor's just messing with you in the 11th panel.
Your brother Bernard must be giving strange looks after you asked that question. @__@ I'm sorry. OTL

Are you still taking questions?
If you are, I wanted to ask Miriam what were some of the funniest or most unrealistic things she ever read from various BL stories. :D
But, I know it's probably an uncomfortable question for a guy like you to ask... so, it's okay if you don't. ^^;


Disengaged May 30th, 2012, 8:48 pm

This strip reminds me: my brother once told me that when he was a kid on his way home from school he fell victim to a racial assault, however for the wrong race. Some drunken old guy was sat on a wall watching him then threw a brick at him as he walked by, all my brother heard was, "fuckin' Jew"... He's half English and quarter Irish & Italian. That's gotta be the worst way to get your ethnicity mistaken lol.


jonasfx May 31st, 2012, 3:43 am

hahahaha didn't know there was such a hilarious backstory to your avatar! (new one looks great btw)

y'know, because of that avatar I didn't really beliave this comic 100%. I always had it in the back of my head, no one is this open.. and puts up a photo of himself as the avatar even!! and what's with that obviously painted over shirt??
haha, I didn't want to judge so I never asked. and I pretty fast realised that all this couldn't be just made up. so the avatar went from suspicious to just weird haha I'm sorry I never said anything!


Justea (Guest) May 31st, 2012, 10:39 am

I'm not sure if you're still doing that question thing, but if you are.. Question: David, can you grow a beard LIKE A REAL MAN.


daviddoesntgetit May 31st, 2012, 8:59 pm

@ixluvxprinny: Hey, don't worry about it. Asking people to judge your race/ethnicity based on appearance alone isn't an easy task, nor a necessary skill.

@mavi: Haha, alright. I'll ask her. Bernard looked at me a little odd but he was just confused for a little bit.

@Disengaged: Haha, jesus. Nothing about that story was pleasant.

@jonasfx: Haha, glad the new avatar is enjoyable.

Haha, I fucking love that obviously drawn shirt. But then I looked up the picture and the baby had to go through surgery so I had to change it.

It's fine, it's fine.


yaoi4evandnevayuri May 31st, 2012, 9:56 pm

@daviddoesntgetit lmao, i would have always assumed that was you then. xDD Yes, you SHOULD change it. I thought the idea was cool though.


daviddoesntgetit June 24th, 2012, 1:24 am

@Mo-Khan: Hey, here's a reply from Connor all the way in Guatemala, this took a while to get since he's been busy. And I apologize ahead of time for his tone.

Hello. This is Connor speaking.

I don't know much about anything concerning the science behind race. I study anthropology so my main interest is in cultural implications of race views therein. Concerning biological reasons, what about those who are half white then? Or half black? Or just even one quarter black and three quarters Vietnamese like my darling niece? How do you want me to deal with them then? How am I supposed to label them? At that point the labels seem rather pointless to me.

I remember reading a DNA study across races, how the similarities are more common than the differences, and also our identity as a human race in contrast with chimps and apes, if you have to look at it on that scale, does that make me a different race from my brother because my hair is curlier? You think it's bullshit? We're all a singular species, we can all breed with each other. It doesn't matter if a fucking rich white person said it or not. (I hate rich people, white or whatever the fuck they are however it is not a mantra that is carried on only by them.)

Do you think it's so wrong that people saw something meaningful in that and decided to rally behind it?

For me my race identity of being Vietnamese is through the fact that I can speak Vietnamese, I've learned cultural values like honoring my ancestor because I'm Vietnamese, I don't tell people I'm Vietnamese because I have black hair. When we go back home to Vietnam we are called a derogatory term because we are not considered true Vietnamese having been born and raised in America and thus this continuing identity of Vietnamese-American.

Yet they hear me speak Vietnamese and they are suddenly more comfortable with me. They were just glad to know I still knew the mother language. What is race in this situation?

I'm a humanist, my main interest is in the goodwill of mankind, making sure that humans are happy. So yes. I like the idea that people want to be good to each other, and do you have something against pacifism? I know I may be abrasive in nature but I don't condone any kind of violent confrontation, does that make my message any less meaningful? To me violence is the last resort, something I've learned from my own temper problems. Anger is the point where I lose all rationalizing and reasoning and instead somehow my brain tells me that violence is the only solution because words have had no effect so yes. I try to avoid violence in my everyday life.

I believe very strongly in empathy and walking a mile in someone else's shoes, I believe through dialogue and understanding anyone can talk to anyone else. I believe in the good possibilities of mankind.

Through all this I'm not saying racism doesn't exist. I live in the south, the KKK exists here, the news shows a lot of crazy as hell politician who deny my existence as a citizen and a human being simply because I can speak two languages, and it scares me enough to sometimes leave me crying at night and causes me to lose sleep.

So is it so wrong that I want to change it? I like what Morgan Freeman had to say concerning Black History Month. Why should it be a separate month? Why even address this degree of difference?

Race is important to identity because, as I've said before, there are cultural implications. However the problems that arise, why is there a need to exacerbate the situation further?

No one person told me what race is, no one works like that. We grow up and we experience a lot of things, I've had many people tell me what they think about racism. We had a substitute teacher, white, teaching us about race relations in elementary school. When we asked her if it was like that when she was young I could see the shame in her eyes as she hesitated and looked down. Our dad is a huge racist, if I listened to him I would have grown up thinking all middle easterners are terrorists, all latinos are assholes, all white people are shit head, all black people are lazy, and all asian people are elitist mother fuckers. I remember the story of the black kid getting shot in Florida and reminding me of the time I was nearly shot in the face by some redneck at a trailer park. I learned from reading articles, listening to other people, taking courses, watching documentaries, so no. I did not have one person influence my decision. I grew up, I examined my life, I decided what I did from my own observations.

I don't like looking at race, I like looking at people. I like helping people because I like humans, just because race doesn't play that important a role for me doesn't mean I don't respect that it does for other people, that's what it means to be a humanist. So are you going to tell me that's a wrong way of looking at the world? That for some reason this difference in opinion can't simply be a difference in opinion but rather I'm incorrect and have to change my ways? Why? Just because you disagree with me? I don't care who you are, black woman, latino male, intersex dog, if I don't agree with you, I don't agree with you, if I don't respect your opinion I'm not going to take it into account, simple as that. As Harlan Ellison said, "You are entitled to your opinion but only if it's informed." So why am I not entitled to my opinion?

And I apologize if through all this I've managed to ruin your view of me but then again I'm not put on this world to please you. I help people that need help regardless of race and I fucking love it.

I would like to leave this discussion as agreeing to disagree. So in conclusion, I hope you have a nice day.


POTATOES4EVA (Guest) July 10th, 2012, 9:34 pm

OH BRAD. But you'd be a sexy whore, so that's okay. YOU'D MAKE A PRETTY LADY DAVID I'M CERTAIN.

AND OH GOD YES IF I WERE A MAN THE GAY SEX I WOULD HAVE you know if I wasn't such a freaking prude :I


daviddoesntgetit July 17th, 2012, 7:05 pm

@Mo-Khan: Hey there.

Connor said he wasn't interested in replying. He told me to just ignore your reply but I just thought you should know.

I'm sorry about his behavior, haha.