June 30th, 2014, 2:10 am

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daviddoesntgetit June 30th, 2014, 2:14 am

Sorry I didn't update last week, our mom stopped by for an impromptu vacation and I'll probably be gone this week and next. As always, vacations are spur of the moment.

I'll be seeing you guys.

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Reealt June 30th, 2014, 4:19 am

You two have cute sounding conversations. If you two do end up adopting, how old will the kid be...?

Have a fun vacation!

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Titi (Guest) July 12th, 2014, 5:58 am

Could it be that Brad is some kind of foreigner too????

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Kino92 (Guest) July 12th, 2014, 1:26 pm

I've been reading through the whole comic over the past few weeks and since I found it, and have been gradually slowing how much I read so that I wouldn't reach the last post (its awesome to see you're still drawing them as I thought they may have been finished). I'm asexual too and its been great to have something I can relate to. I'm also adopted and wanted to say that I think you'd make a brilliant adoptive parent and absolutely to go for it if that's what you want. (And Brad would make a good co-parent, not shipping there, just that ye'd compliment each other nicely to give any kid a great family, not to mention Miriam, Connor, Bernard, Douglas and your parents!). That is all.

PS. Please keep drawing this subtly brilliant webcomic, even if you David doesn't get it, you help others to :)

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ice---tea July 15th, 2014, 11:21 pm

Have a great vacation~ :)

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daviddoesntgetit July 24th, 2014, 1:36 am

@Reealt: Ah... haha. I hate to say it but we have discussed this. We both definitely decided we didn't want babies. They're a pain in the ass and I've had my fill from taking care of Connor and Miriam.

There was one month where our dad ditched us for his girlfriend and left me to take care of a 1 year old Connor who was crying all the time from diaper rash. I'm done.

I would like older kids, about 6-8 would be great? I know older kids have trouble getting adopted so I would like to but Brad said he'd prefer 3-4 year olds so that we could mold them more.

Either ways, I'm good. Kids are cute. Cute kids are cute.

Thanks, I did have fun!

@Titi: Eh? No, where did you get that idea? Well, he's a foreigner in our house since he's hell-a white. There's other Caucasian people in our family.

@Kino92: Ah, sorry about that. I take over for a month in the summer all the time to go spend it with my family.

Huh, really? You're adopted? Can you tell me more about that? Just whatever you feel comfortable with sharing. You're asexual too! So much relevance.

Ah, thanks for the kind words. I admit, I'm still nervous about adopting, haha, so thanks for the vote of confidence. They always say no one's prepared to have a kid so you kinda just have to go for it.

Well, as Brad would say, he thinks the two of us would kill when it comes to co-parenting.

Haha, glad my comic is useful to the readers. It started off as a thing for me to just vent so I'm glad it hasn't been contained to me just bitching.

@ice-tea: Thanks! I did have a great vacation.

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Kino92 (Guest) July 26th, 2014, 5:12 am

@daviddoesntgetit: Well there's lots of things I could say about being adopted, but I don't want to bore you so I'll try to keep it brief. I was adopted at 6 months so my experience would be very different to someone who is a few years older and has been through fostering (although my family foster now too). That's one thing - adoption is different for everyone. Its good to maybe find a network of people who have/are adopted to share experiences with because some will be more relevant than others. To a parent of adopted kids the two bits of advice I'd give. One is that kids are naturally going to be curious about where they came from, and not to feel threatened by that but to encourage it (my parents didn't but many adoptive parents feel hurt or even betrayed that their kids would want to find their biological parents, and some kids I know have pretended not to be interested in doing that just so they wouldn't hurt their adoptive parents feelings which isn't fair on the kids). Second thing is that it should be a normal thing you can talk about but not to make too big a deal out of it, my parents probably emphasized it too much and when I was a teenager I actually left home and school to go find my mother :P (everything worked out ok though). So yeah basically do talk about it and stuff but also don't make a huge deal out of it, you're kid will face bigger challenges in life than being adopted, and also it can teach you good lessons, like that family is about love and caring for each other even more than it is about blood eg. you and Brad. Sorry to blab, but hopefully that advice may be useful, but parenting adopted kid is not very different to parenting any other kid, so everyone has their own way. As long as you're patient kind and set a good example (and you seem like you would), you can't go too wrong. And yeah the comic has been useful, sometimes I feel a little crazy as an asexual, as sex is so important for everyone else, so reading about your life is pretty reassuring, and there are little lessons to be learned from all the main people in the comic, whether its Connor's compassion, Miriam having to deal with sexism, or Brad being a brilliant persistent friend when you're a stubborn galoot :P So yeah, keep it up :)

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daviddoesntgetit July 31st, 2014, 3:09 am

@Kino92: It's not boring! I would really like to get as many perspective as I can.

I've been reading "Sunny", it's written by a man who was an orphan or raised in a foster home himself about his childhood. It's been a really good read.

Ah, your family fosters now as well? Wow, how many kids are in your house?

Wow, haha, did you end up finding your mother?

I guess if I adopt older, it's not something I'm going to have to bring up a lot, right? Hm, hm.

I'll be honest, I'm nervous about adopting/parenting for a lot of reasons. The main thing being my short temper. Our stepmom said she beat us 'cause her mom used to beat her and she knew that's how well-behaved kids are made.

I know I'm not here and that the statistics of people that have been through child abuse repeating what their parents did aren't any more likely than people who weren't.

Still. I worry that I adopt a kid and then put them through hell.

I know it's kind've a ridiculous fear, according to everyone I know, and they all constantly remind me that they know I won't but still. I know my temper better than anyone. I keep reading about kids that get adopted into a bad situation and I just don't want to be one of those news stories.

Wow, sorry for venting there. Didn't mean to worry you or anything of the sort, haha. I'll figure it out.

Haha. I know, I know. Brad deserves a better friend than me. Anyways, glad to see you enjoy the comic so much. That's really good to know.

And thanks for the advice. I know people say you can't prepare but it puts me at ease a bit to read these things. To give me the illusion that I have any sort of control over the future situation, haha.