January 24th, 2015, 2:10 am

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daviddoesntgetit January 24th, 2015, 2:30 am

I am sick again. Fuck you, Brad. Since winter started he's gotten me sick about three times. Fuck you, Brad.

Also, I think it was you, yaoi4evandnevayuri, that Connor got into an argument with once about race? He said it's been weighing on his mind a lot and he wanted to apologize. He understand the point you were trying to make now and it's been bothering him for the past year or so. I'll write more for him later but I'm not feeling so great right now. It was something like even if race is a social construct, it doesn't mean the divides don't exist and we don't look at the world that way. People who say we live in a post-racist society are willfully ignorant. I'm gonna have to stop.

In any case, back to the comic. The road to forgiving my stepmother started as I slowly learned things about her, from the poverty, the things she had to leave behind to come to this country, the way our dad treated her, etc. I think it's something similar to what people label as the Stockholm Syndrome. Whether or not you think empathizing with an enemy is a sinister thing or not is up to you and the situation, I think.

I think what people misunderstand as well is that it doesn't excuse her from what she did. People tend to write stories where the villain had some traumatic childhood past which gives him a license to murder everyone, apparently. I tend to associate it the same with feeling of pity towards a person who went through such events.

Connor fucking hates the jokes on TV like, "Oh, it's fine. I got my medical license from Venezuela!" I know plenty of Asians that don't give a fuck about their heritage, that's fine, I suppose. I am constantly amazed at the disregard Americans seem to have for other countries.

This is one of the many reasons I don't like people talking shit about my family if they don't know anything about my family or when they try to give advice. You're just never going to know all the things that I do about them that led to me forming the opinions I do so you probably shouldn't give me advice. Especially when I don't fucking ask for it, ever.

Is it a complex situation? Yeah. How I choose to deal with our stepmom or my feelings about it is my business though, not anyone else's. If I've found a way to make myself comfortable with how I interact with her and am able to get through my life, why does anyone think I should change it?

Our stepmom came to the country pretty late, in her 20s, while our mom and dad came in their early teens. As a result, our mom says she's slightly stunted in her understanding of Vietnamese and prefers to read in English.

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Reealt January 24th, 2015, 5:40 pm

>I think what people misunderstand as well is that it doesn't excuse her from what she did.

You really hit the nail on the head on how I feel about my mom. Yeah, she had a shitty life, and I do feel bad about it, but it doesn't change that what she did was straight up wrong. And it's hard for people outside the situtation to understand and give advice about it, because there's so many things going on. Saying, just forgive her, or never forgive her, isn't as black and white as they make it.

It's kind of shitty when people make fun of other country's education. I only get upset with people when they refuse to listen/learn about the new things, especially after they've asked about it.

Feel better David, and tell Brad to stop getting you sick!

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daviddoesntgetit January 24th, 2015, 6:05 pm

@Reealt: I've made a friend lately who constantly interrupts me to give me advice and it pisses the every loving fucking shit out of me precisely because it's not so black and white and he makes clearly no attempt to understand the complexity of the situation. If he's not going to even try, what business does he have thinking it's ok to fucking talk about it at all?

Well, it's shitty 'cause it's such a condescending attitude to take thinking that America, since it's so rich, only has the best and brightest and only talking about inventions founded by Americans and the like. There's loads of problems with it.

I wish he would, that jackass.

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Oly-RRR February 21st, 2015, 1:02 pm

Your comics might be some of the most reasonable comics I ever read online. I'm so glad you added those last two panels - I was expecting those comments by the time I got to the middle of the page and it made me feel really uneasy.

Sometimes it's hard to not be judgemental but we could all try harder. I get what you mean - forgiving and understanding doesn't mean approving of actions. Sometimes life just sucks and people do or say something wrong because of all the wrong things that happened before and I guess we all just try to find ways to deal with it the best way we can but not always necessarily fix it, just damage control maybe...

It's only somewhat relevant but I can't stand it when people do all those "humorous" comparisons like not having the knowledge (or in different cases not having the ability to get knowledge) makes someone a lesser person somehow. I'm trying to wipe all those "like an idiot" and "like crazy" and especially "it must be terrible for you!" out of my vocabulary entirely but I still get to hear them... People say the damnedest things and don't realise that everyone's life experiences can be different. And I can understand it when it's slips of tongue (because words ARE awkward and have multiple meanings and all) but some people actually angrily lecture about how terrible they find other people's lives, all that "if I were that person I'd kill myself!" and they don't even understand how rude and wrong it is.

I should read your comics more. Someday I'll binge through your entire archive but it makes me think and write these long comments so I don't always have the time. :P